“Kitty Stryker is aiming to start a conversation we should already be having and to push the idea of consent forward with her book, “Ask: Building Consent Culture.” Covering the idea of consent everywhere from in the bedroom to out in the community and places in between, Ms. Stryker’s book is a striking anthology of consent and how it should ideally function throughout today’s society.”
Laurie Handlers from the podcast Sex and Happiness sat down and talked to me about consent culture, privilege, the BDSM community and how we talk about consent. We have a really good chat about power dynamics and how that affects who gets to talk about consent violations and who doesn’t, which is complex!
Karen Pollock from The Queerness interviewed me about “Ask: Building Consent Culture”, quizzed me on what a consent culture would look like, and gave me the opportunity to explain why a sex worker is the perfect person to teach people about consent.
Koti Dory from the radio show “Sex, Drugs, and How We Roll” and I reconnect after a few years to talk about the book, how it came together, the voices that came together to make it and the ideas it brings forth. We chat a bunch about actively working to create culture and the sort of world that we want to live in. Then, get into the tough work of people living in community and learning to be good to each other – even when they’re juggalos. Not kidding.
I went onto “Speaking of Sex”, a podcast hosted by Pleasure Mechanics, and spoke to them about some working definitions of consent culture, how systems of power complicate what we can say yes and no to, and how practicing consent in the bedroom can empower you in other parts of your life.
Dr. Martha Lee invited me onto her show Eros Evolution to discuss what consent culture is, why it’s important, and how it can challenge rape culture. Within this show, we explore the ways in which alternative sexualities embrace constructs of consent, and the ways in which we are still learning.
Wow! Exciting to get such a rave review from hellogiggles about “Ask” – they say:
“Consent shouldn’t be such a hard thing to talk about. There are videos of studies that show toddlers understand the concept of consent, yet when we talk to young, sexually active men and women, everything gets muddled for some reason. It shouldn’t be so difficult to figure out for adults. If you want to fight back against rape culture, learning the lingo of consent culture with a book like this is not a bad start.”
I got to have a lovely chat with Tristan Taormino, one of my favourite sex educators, on her show Sex Out Loud – we cover porn, body image, activism, and why it’s so important to build a consent culture.